The Mixed Messages That Mute Your Magic

Whose parents told them I could be anything I wanted. They said it with pride — like they meant it.

But then you’d tell them your big ideas…and they’d follow up with, “that’s not going to work,” or “you know that’ll take a lot of hard work,” or “you’re going to struggle for a while before it works out.”

And in those moments, something inside you quietly shifted.

The dream didn’t feel possible anymore. It felt heavy. Risky. Unsafe.

Even though they meant well and they weren’t trying to crush you, those comments planted a belief that maybe that path wasn’t for you after all.

So, you pivoted. You chose something smaller, safer, and more acceptable.

And that pattern has followed you into business.

Every time you have a bold idea, a new offer, a launch, a direction that feels different, you hear that same voice in your head:

“That’s going to be hard.” “You’ll probably struggle.” “What if it doesn’t work?”

It’s wild how early conditioning can turn into self-sabotage disguised as “being realistic.”

The truth is, most people don't stop dreaming because they failed; they stopped because someone made our dreams sound too much to chase.

So, they end up building businesses that feel practical instead of powerful. They continue to play it safe, edit themselves down, and choose strategies that look responsible instead of aligned.

But what if the version of you that wanted everything as a kid was right all along? What if the risk is exactly what leads to your reward?

That's not to say that what you want won't take work or that you won't struggle sometimes. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It just means you’re stretching into something new, something you were always meant for.

The challenge isn’t the dream. It’s the conditioning that tells you not to trust it.

So if you’ve been doubting your next move or waiting for it to feel “safe” before you leap, this is your reminder: You don’t need permission to be the first in your family to believe in ease, success, or freedom.

You just need to remember that you’ve always been capable; they just couldn’t see it yet.